Blow the whistle you have until now been concealing underneath your cashmere sweater. Blow it loud, and blow it long. Blow it until it feels like there is nothing in your lungs and then blow a little more. 30 seconds should suffice. Pause. “I’m … I’m really sorry, but I don’t feel safe in this conversation anymore.”
I wish I had read this before Christmas. There are some great responses in here.
I’m buying a whistle for the next family get together.